Live Happily! Love Passionately! Make A Difference!
In the end… we might disagree about how we get there, but we all want the same thing.
• We want to thrive. To be respected and earn a good living from doing something we feel good about.
• We want to love and be loved.
• And we want to feel that our life mattered. That somehow we made a positive difference to the world.
And the path to authentic happiness is simply being ourselves... in the place that values us... with the people that love who we are.
We live in a world where everyone else thinks that their success, happiness and wellbeing depends upon what other people do. And so every day, and what often feels like every minute is spent fielding relentless demands on your attention, time and energy.
And so you feel overwhelmed. Torn between your desire to live life your way and feeling like you're a bad person if you do.
Should we be true to our desires... our instincts... or should we carry on fitting into what other people say we should do? Is it selfish to be true to our own path?
A Framework For Peace, Love and Happiness
To be yourself in a world that pulls you every other way is the hardest thing to do, but how do you know when you’re being true to yourself and when you’re just being plain selfish?
I’ve had the fortune to ponder that question with thousands of Readers and Clients as a Therapist, Counsellor and Coach.
Three decades of observation, pondering and seeing thousands of Clients trying different things have taught me some powerful frameworks that I'd like to share with you.
I’m Rob McPhillips and my mission is to fight for you!
Everyone in the world is out there promoting this cause or that cause, but for me what matters is individuals. The way to a better and fairer society is one with happy people. So I want to help people, one by one, find their path to happiness.
What Reader's Say
“There are so many nuggets in your book. Many of which I have heard before but for some reason they are sinking in better this time.”
“I recall the feeling of having clarity showered upon me… I’d recommend anyone to read to have that sense of clarity and be inspired to move on with their life despite all the obstacles they have.”
"What differentiated your book was its simplicity…"
The Path To A Happy, Loving and Fulfilling Life
There are millions of books and ‘Experts’ who will give you their answers, but each of us lives in a unique context with our own set of instincts and temperaments and to think there is one right path is to misunderstand the beautiful complexity of this mystery of life we are all living.
No one else can give you the directions to best live YOUR life. You have to be the one to decide what is right for you. You have to be the one that digs deep inside and connects to the inner wisdom that unlocks your inner peace.
One of the big problems we have is that everyone else is trying to tell us what we should do. How we should live. We don’t need anyone else telling us what we should be doing.
What I can give you though are a set of universal frameworks that help you to frame the questions you need to ask. A way to examine what is really true for you. And if you wish, the support to navigate your way quicker and smoother.
Essentially there are three key steps:
1. Developing the self-awareness to be yourself (and know what is truly you and what is destructive)
2. Enhanced sensitivity and understanding of your environment
3. Being able to express who you are so people understand and respect you.
Coaching to Happiness is filled with insights and ideas such as;
• The Structure of Happiness and how to diagnose what you need to work on to be happier.
• The Only Three Goals For Life
• The Zero Stress System
• How To Get Over a Relationship Break Up and Live Happily Ever After
• And much, much more including discussion on relationships, parenting, enjoying your career and finding meaning in your life.
A Framework For Peace, Love and Happiness
My focus for 2017 is to create easier frameworks that can guide people to richer and more rewarding lives. I want you to be able to identify what steps you can take, what perspectives will change the way you feel and make it easier for you to thrive, love and matter deeper than ever before.
To do this I am looking for a few people that can document and share their journey to a happier life. In return I will work with them 1-1 to help them navigate to their happier life.
If you would like to be the shining transformation to inspire others find out more here.
Every journey begins by identifying a problem and a goal you want to reach. Each of us is floating in the sea of life. If we do nothing the waves other people create, the current and so on are going to drag us out somewhere. And maybe that will be somewhere you’ll be happy with, but maybe it won’t… maybe you’ll end up somewhere lost and miserable.
For me that’s too risky a way to live. For your life to turn out the way you want it to, you have to work out where you want to get to and start paddling.
So why not start at would make you happier?
• Less stress
• Understanding the structure of happiness and seeing which aspect would make you happier
• Getting over a relationship break up easier
Happiness and a meaningful life has a universal structure. Discover more here.
What we live now is a mix of the circumstances we have found ourselves in and how we have responded to those circumstances. Often our friends will tell us it's not our fault and we couldn't help it when bad things happen.
They don't want us to feel bad, but that can lead us to believe that we are victims. We aren't victims, but it wasn't our fault either.
We just did the best with what we knew. But if we expand what we know we get new perspectives that show us how to solve the problems we have.
If you refuse to be a victim and instead embrace the fact there's something you don't know... something that could help you make better choices and lead to a better future...
You Get To Choose Your Future
You Can Be You
It's not the objective circumstances in our life that make us happy. It's the way we feel about how we're doing that determines how we feel.
There are plenty of people that have had every opportunity, material comfort and have lived miserable lives.
Likewise, there are people living in happily in abject poverty. If you can sleep at night with a clear conscience and know that your life is having a positive impact, while you are living in a way that feels right to you... you get to feel more peace... you create deeper and more loving relationships... and people respect you for what you truly are.
That's a life where you thrive. Where you love and are loved. And where you matter!
When you have that... you don't need riches, fame and likes on facebook. You have what really counts. Warm, loving and deep real relationships, a sense of purpose and a feeling that the world is a better place for you having walked on it.
Or You Can Regret
I am driven by one fear. I'm afraid of laying on my deathbed and regretting the life choices I made. Bronnie Ware, an Australian Nurse working with people in their last days wrote a book on the top five regrets of the dying. These were them...
I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
I wish that I had let myself be happier.
I don't know about you, but I want to learn from the mistakes of others. If you feel the same join us.