Being happy is really a choice we make, but it doesn’t always seem to be that straightforward.
n each of our lives there are two worlds. One leads to a happy life… and the other to a life of frustration, despair and misery.
These two worlds are the inner world and the outer world. The inner world is made up of our thoughts, and feelings.
The outer world is made of all the things that we can see, hear, touch, smell and taste. The outer world is the manifestation of your inner world. Everything in the outer world is only a symbol representing something in your inner world.
So when we say that we want more money. What we really mean is that we want to create the feeling of being free to buy whatever we like, or to get rid of the feeling of worry connected to money?
Think of your life as a film. The drama, excitement and stories unfurl before your eyes on the screen.
Just as the drama, excitement and events in your life unfold in the outer world
The screen however is only where the projection from the projector or video or DVD is displayed. Just as everything in your life is created from your thoughts, feelings and beliefs.
If the wrong film were playing on the screen you would not start trying to make changes to the screen.
It’s clear to you that the source of the film is not the screen. You would change the video or DVD.
Yet in life we continually try to change the outer world. When we feel insecure we try to make more money, build new relationships or buy insurance to make ourselves feel safer.
When we feel unhappy we try to buy new things, change things around or move to be around new things or new people.
This rarely works for long because our feelings are created, not by things around us, but by thoughts… our perception of what is happening around us.
Our feelings are from our inner world and things are from our outer world. The link is indirect… and so the outer world is an indirect, slow and complex way of changing how we feel.
The solution to achieving a happy life as with many solutions is so simple that we cannot understand or believe it. We are always searching for the high tech, the complex and impressive solutions, but ignore the simple truth.
Happiness comes from feelings, not from things we buy to make us happy. We have become so ingrained in seeking happiness indirectly that we do not always understand the difference between being happy for the short-term and long term.
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You are so right. I really have to laugh when i hear people talk about all the things in the outer world that are ging to make them happy. I was one of the lucky ones that learn early on what happiness really is. Some times I feel that it helps to find happiness when you don't grow up with everything that you think you might want. You learn to appreciate what you do have and the wonderful people you have around you.
Thanks for your words.
Debbie