Throughout history people have looked at limitless patience and acts of kindness by people like Jesus, Buddha, Lao Tsu, Mother Theresa and so on. And they think this is a great example, I must live up to this.

And they try to follow the actions. But they feel burnt out, eroded and damaged. Then they beat themselves up and say I’m not as good as…

They went off the path when they copied the actions. Effective smooth action only comes after inspired thought. Inspired action can never follow frantic panicked action.

What they failed to understand, because they couldn’t see it, was that these individuals were already happy. Then because happiness smoothed their actions and words, they didn’t cause friction or damage to them. And so they could do these acts of kindness and be infinitely patient without costing them anything. In the same way, events that may look like being hugely painful were not painful to these individuals.

It is not that they are unique or special, in the sense that you could not achieve what they did. It is just that they approached life from a radically different perspective that enabled them to seem superhuman.

We will talk later about the Economic Mindset. Through this perspective it seems that only actions have value… but this isn’t really true. It is only true on the more superficial layers of life. Really though you may do something for another; you will in some way try to get rewarded or you’ll feel cheated.

Real happiness can never be bought or sold. Nor given or taken. It can only be chosen and enjoyed. You can never achieve enough to earn happiness. Nor can you manipulate circumstances enough to cause another to be happy.

More harm is done in this world by individuals, groups and nations who act from the arrogance of believing they could possibly know the best way forward for another, than from any number of individuals who act for their own happiness.

When one person says this is the right way, another sees something different and she says ‘No. This is the right way’. Both are certain that they are right. And each is in their own little world.

So now there can only be one right way. And so begins the fight. Either verbal, physical or psychological. Neither side will rest until their way has been upheld. Instead of appreciating the best in the other, now both look for weakness and blame.

It is as if there is a balloon being blown up between them. The longer it goes on for, the more distanced the pair become. The more distance the more critical of each other they become. When they get far enough away from each other there becomes nothing about the other that they like, or see as worthwhile.

If you have an image of what is right for someone else. Then that begins to strip away their free will. You may be doing it for the best of intentions, just wanting for them to be happy. But it is based in a belief that they need X to be happy.

They don’t.

They will find their own way to happiness if they are allowed and allow themselves. Whenever we hold an image that is best for another, we cannot help but try to shape them in that direction. And if they go in any way other than the direction we believe to be for the best, we think they are wrong.

Then we either tell them one way or another that they are wrong or between us the balloon comes between us and we become distanced. From this point on, you can only see the lost opportunities for the other.

We do not know enough to even work out what is best for ourselves, let alone another. There are so many variables and unseen opportunities to life, that you can never know let alone calculate into your equations of what is best that no one person, not even ten people together could be able to plot the best way forward for an individual. All you can do is help them to access their own guidance and trust in themselves and the Universe.

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