That is the kind of reasoning that leads people to sell out their dream in order to fit in. Being normal becomes overwhelmingly important. This is why fashions and magazines that set the tone have become increasingly popular. The intense focus on famous people’s private lives and the success of reality television programs are due to this need to find out about others.

Do they really do the same as me?

Am I normal?

When people find that there are many others who feel the same way, much of the pressure they felt is relieved.

To some extent we do tend to grow out of this as we get older and start to relax and just be ourselves. And this links in with research findings that show that we become happier as we age.

The rushing around like headless chickens that we often do… attempting to build success, power, status and affection… in order to prove our value to society is mistaken.

The value we as humans create is not in following rules, ideas and processes… it is in expanding and creating new things, new ideas and processes.

The people who are most valued are those who rewrite the rules. Not the people who make minor incremental improvements.

So if you feel that you lack in value, it may be because you aren’t creating value. Not because you are inherently lacking in value.

What most of us do, is to follow the Operating System we have by default. Then we become too caught up in life to even consider that we may not be thinking for ourselves. We look around and think that the fact that we lack self-esteem, motivation, success, happiness and so on is because of a fault in us.

We look for all the ways in which we are broken. As we tune into that wavelength, our perceptual filters look for evidence that we are broken, and start to find it. Now we can prove that we are not worthy and consequently we lack self-esteem.

The real problem is that as we are not thinking for ourselves we are not adding to the world. If we revisited each belief and decided what we as an Individual chose to believe, it would tune us in to the wavelength where we are most comfortable and happiest.

Then around us we would see all we needed to learn, all the circumstances and people we need in order to create, whatever it is our unique talents can. This new idea, creation, process or service then expands the boundaries of the Universe. We grow and the world grows. Then there is no question of your value. To you or to the world.

If you look at any person who is valued, famed and acclaimed… from Pop Stars to Inventors to Entrepreneurs to Statesmen you will notice that not one of them ever got there by being the same as everyone else. Each had the courage to stand out from the crowd, in some way, and to stand up for their beliefs. Often they will have been ridiculed by many, but in time as came to understand their perspective, they became our Hero’s and Heroine’s.

What conventional wisdom and beliefs do you disagree with?

Why?

If you have solid reasons for disagreeing… and can find a better way, a better solution… dig, test your ideas and adjust to what life shows you… you could be on the way to finding your unique message. Spread your message. Expand the world. Then you will never doubt your value ever again.