Emotional IntensityHave you ever been dumbstruck by the way your Partner or friend could take something so calmly while you were boiling with rage? Or were you the calm one who couldn’t understand why they were so worked up? Here’s why.
I don’t really like to categorize people into specific groups. I’m not sure if you see people like that, because that’s what you’re looking for (the wavelength you are tuning into) or because that’s how they are. However sometimes that’s the easiest way to understand something. What I have noticed is that there are two types of people. Sometimes one person can switch between the two roles. One group I call the Structurers. These perhaps relate closely to Introverts. Structurers tend to be more detached and therefore they can be more analytical and see things with greater clarity. The second group, I call Enhancers. This relate to Extraverts. Enhancers are deeply attached… they feel things far more vividly. As a result they are far more dramatic and bring more color… more drama and excitement to situations. Both groups need each other. Enhancers exaggerate what is going on. This enables Structurers to see what can be changed more easily as it magnifies details for them. Structurers provide the detail and the foundations that provide the stage for Enhancers to bring to life far more vividly. There is no better example of the way Structurers and Enhancers work together than in Entertainment. The Directors, Cameramen, Casting Agents and so on keep a more detached view holding onto the bigger picture and making the details fit together perfectly. Meanwhile the Actors, Actresses, Dancers, Singers and so on concentrate all their focus on portraying more and more emotional depth. The result is a believable and gripping structure that holds attention building up to the peak emotional scenes and then a depth of emotion that moves audiences to tears. Neither is better than the other. They just play different roles to reach the same goal. Next time you see the Drama Queen or the Insensitive Oaf in your life remember their role in either exaggerating to highlight, or in detaching to analyze. By listening to others and honestly sharing your views, you’ll get so many more insights and perspectives that life becomes so much more dimensional and so you’ll see many choices in life. Then all of your life becomes a choice.
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