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32 Principles That Lead To Happiness |
The Socialisation Process Most of our Operating System is set up in our childhood. Some of it becomes updated as we grow and are capable of understanding more. We learn that Father Christmas doesn’t really bring us our presents. That adults don’t know everything and a hundred and one other things we once believed aren’t true. However there are still many, many beliefs that never get changed, because we have never had the time, or reason, to consciously think about them. Therefore the Socialisation process, what Freud called the introjection of Society’s view, is very important. Introjection means initially your Parents and Teachers tell you something over and over again. Eventually it becomes so ingrained that you do it to yourself in your own head. Freud used this in terms of a conscience, but I think it relates to what we believe. This process begins with our Parents or Carers. We learn not just from what they consciously teach, but from their every thought, word and action. It doesn’t matter what you say, people can still pick up on your thoughts through your body language. Parents are particularly important as they provide the basic template for our Operating System. The next stage is when the Child goes out to School or Nursery. Here they learn that not everyone does things in the same way or thinks the same. There are different rules and codes of conduct. This expands their Operating System. What they gained from their Parents and Siblings, were Personal Operating Systems. Now they are being exposed to Group Operating Systems. As it belongs to a bigger number of people it is far broader and more inclusive. However it is likely to still be somewhat idiosyncratic. For example, I went to a school in London that predominantly had pupils from an Irish Catholic background. So there is still some biased aspects of the Operating System than if I had gone to say a mostly Hindu school. Later we become immersed in the culture and rules of the company you work for and the industry you work in influence our Operating System. The media shepherds us towards Society’s Operating System, by the slant that they put on their stories. Ridiculing and savaging those who are wrong by their Operating System’s interpretation. And making Martyr’s of those who support and exemplify it. Government then puts in place laws on the outer boundaries of Society’s Operating System, which define the boundaries that are accepted by society. Generally people like to think that they make their own mind up. Research studies consistently demonstrate how we can become swayed to conform and obey. Next: Conformity Start Book To Put Excitement Back Into Your Life
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