Comments on: Forgiveness Works! http://coachingtohappiness.com Finding Simple Truths In A Confusing And Complex World. Thu, 10 May 2012 10:52:42 +0000 hourly 1 By: Debbie http://coachingtohappiness.com/power-forgiveness#comment-806 Debbie Thu, 26 Mar 2009 22:55:14 +0000 http://livewithoutconflict.com/?page_id=195#comment-806 Without forgiveness one is stuck in the past and can not move there life forward. When some one hurts you to forgive them we have to step back and look at them and try to understand why they would do this and what we can learn from the situation. I do beleive that when people hurt one another it is because of ego's. We must underatand how our own ego works in our life, so we can grow as a person and not let the ego run our life. When we understand a person then we can forgive them much easier, either they don't know any better or they just plain have alot to learn in this life. Understand leads to forgiveness. Without forgiveness one is stuck in the past and can not move there life forward. When some one hurts you to forgive them we have to step back and look at them and try to understand why they would do this and what we can learn from the situation. I do beleive that when people hurt one another it is because of ego’s. We must underatand how our own ego works in our life, so we can grow as a person and not let the ego run our life.
When we understand a person then we can forgive them much easier, either they don’t know any better or they just plain have alot to learn in this life. Understand leads to forgiveness.

]]> By: Maria http://coachingtohappiness.com/power-forgiveness#comment-802 Maria Thu, 26 Mar 2009 22:39:06 +0000 http://livewithoutconflict.com/?page_id=195#comment-802 I'm so glad I found this site. I have been through something that needed to end with my forgivness. Before finding this site, I recently had forgiven a person near and dear to me. When I read the first line of what forgiveness actuall is it hit home. 'Forgiveness is for you and not the offender. It is an internal process that is a feeling of wellness, freedom and acceptance.' I feel free with myself and happy. It's amazing what it does to you when you let it all go. I’m so glad I found this site. I have been through something that needed to end with my forgivness. Before finding this site, I recently had forgiven a person near and dear to me. When I read the first line of what forgiveness actuall is it hit home.

‘Forgiveness is for you and not the offender. It is an internal process that is a feeling of wellness, freedom and acceptance.’

I feel free with myself and happy. It’s amazing what it does to you when you let it all go.

]]> By: Siva_happy http://coachingtohappiness.com/power-forgiveness#comment-803 Siva_happy Thu, 26 Mar 2009 20:58:51 +0000 http://livewithoutconflict.com/?page_id=195#comment-803 Great post Tim. When you forgive, you are automatically bringing the issue to a resolution. The issue goes from the status of "bothersome" to "resolved" in our mind. One of the defns we (rob) had for stress was "conscious awareness of a thought" and by forgiving, the thought gets out of our consciousness. Two points : 1. how does one learn forgiveness? And how does one facilitate forgiveness in others who are not naturally forgiving? I took Martin Seligman’s strengths test and forgiveness is one of my top strengths and it comes naturally to me. My question is how to develop this in other people? 2. Do you know of more research evidence that shows the connection between resentment and physical disease (like back pain, obesity, heart disease, aging etc). Great post Tim. When you forgive, you are automatically bringing the issue to a resolution. The issue goes from the status of “bothersome” to “resolved” in our mind. One of the defns we (rob) had for stress was “conscious awareness of a thought” and by forgiving, the thought gets out of our consciousness.

Two points :
1. how does one learn forgiveness? And how does one facilitate forgiveness in others who are not naturally forgiving?
I took Martin Seligman’s strengths test and forgiveness is one of my top strengths and it comes naturally to me. My question is how to develop this in other people?
2. Do you know of more research evidence that shows the connection between resentment and physical disease (like back pain, obesity, heart disease, aging etc).

]]> By: Rob http://coachingtohappiness.com/power-forgiveness#comment-804 Rob Thu, 26 Mar 2009 17:31:42 +0000 http://livewithoutconflict.com/?page_id=195#comment-804 Forgiveness is not a word I use personally, probably for the reasons you gave Tim. But I guess that when I talk about resolving an issue, I'm referring to the process that you talk about as being forgiveness. I agree with John as well. I think that forgiveness comes as you raise your level of awareness past the level of self-interest. Forgiveness is not a word I use personally, probably for the reasons you gave Tim. But I guess that when I talk about resolving an issue, I’m referring to the process that you talk about as being forgiveness.

I agree with John as well. I think that forgiveness comes as you raise your level of awareness past the level of self-interest.

]]> By: John http://coachingtohappiness.com/power-forgiveness#comment-805 John Wed, 25 Mar 2009 01:57:54 +0000 http://livewithoutconflict.com/?page_id=195#comment-805 Wise words, and more than that, because it really works! {has practical benefits). In the past, "forgive" had the negative connotation for me that you mention, but I read an article, by Rajneesh/Osho I think, in which he said something to this effect: To forgive is not something that you can "do"; Forgiveness happens when you realize there is nothing to "forgive". Wise words, and more than that, because it really works! {has practical benefits).
In the past, “forgive” had the negative connotation for me that you mention, but I read an article, by Rajneesh/Osho I think, in which he said something to this effect: To forgive is not something that you can “do”; Forgiveness happens when you realize there is nothing to “forgive”.

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