One of the most common phrases people say to others in some form of grief is, ‘time heals’ or ‘it takes time’. It usually does, but time is not the healer. There is a certain process that has to be gone through in order to move things from being painful to being accepted. And this also relates to living with more integrity, being happier and changing a habit.
Some people can get through this process much quicker than others. And so can you. It all depends on 2 things.
1. How effective your process for dealing with change and loss is.
2. The velocity of your life.
There is a process to everything. A certain sequence of events that have to happen before you let something go. Some people have it down so effectively that it’s just like stepping on an escalator and waiting as it passes through the stages. For some it’s like being stuck at the bottom of a deep well, without ladders or steps. Every inch they claw up by their nails is another painful exertion.
The velocity of life is a term I use to mean how much experience you pack into your life. Say someone has been stuck in a cell with little contact or stimulation. They are going to have a much lower velocity of experience than most.
It’s relevant because the process you have to go through, needs certain situations and experiences to move onto the next stage.
The process determines how many stages, experiences and situations you need. The velocity of your life determines how long it will take for them to happen.