Wow you are so right…happiness definitely brings out the best in people.I’ve known people who have totally changed for the better once they’re happy!
— AddysMay 12, 2012
Great job!I am very well impressed.
— Annie Lettner May 12, 2012
I agree with you. We have to face something new in our lives. If we didn´t have to face with a problem everyday, we were just bored.Sometimes the problems make you fight. To be active on this world is a characteristic of human beings.
— Adriana May 12, 2012
I’ve only listened to the first 12 minutes (no time till the weekend for the full 90 mins.), and already I have an insight that explains something I’ve been missing.Part of my struggle has been doing something with the insights that should be game changers, but often don’t move me ahead in a way I would expect. In other words; knowing what’s wrong and still staying stuck with it.Just a comment from Rob about 10 mins. into the recording cleared up why that cycle exists for me. Listen yourself, but in summary he noted that ‘if you have nothing more important to strive for in your life, than to understand and remove the negatives, the mere desire to change won’t be strong enough to outweigh that motivation’. I took that to mean that you have a better chance of “moving on”, when you are careful to make what’s ahead more important than what’s behind.I’ve spent far more time looking back. It’s no wonder it’s become far greater than the life I want. I just have never put any meaningful and persistent action into chasing it in concrete ways. In thinking I needed to figure out and rectify first, I was never developing the foundation to build the life I wished for on.It seems logical that if ones primary focus is where you want to go and who you want to become, that the past which often seems to have so much power, would play a lesser role in the perception of self.I’ve got to chew on this.
— BrianMay 12, 2012
I know exactly what you mean Rob!You put it into words so much better than me but it is exactly what has been missing in my careers.Camaraderie, networks and the fun and socialization that goes with that.Thanks and happy Networking,
— LisaMay 12, 2012
Top stuff Rob.Your definition of the conscious thought and stress has really hit a chord with me.Looking forward to the next part.Cheers!
— AnonymousMay 12, 2012
thanks for inspiring me to live
— Sarah May 12, 2012
Again, another great read from Rob!I agree with so much and am challenged by other ideas, of course – the beauty!
— TammyMay 12, 2012
Woah, I stumbled on to this blog after googling ‘biggest regret’.Its difficult to convey how grateful I am that you made this post. Its had a deep impact on me.I won’t say anymore, I will just do!
— Liam MMay 12, 2012
VERY, very interesting.I think this is as close to an accurate assessment that I’ve heard.Thanks!
— CindyMay 12, 2012
Just a late chiming in. I also want to thank you for providing so many meaningful insights. It's not just the content of what you say, but the way you deliver your thoughts that stand out. I have always had an admiration of those who could articulate their thoughts in a way that pushes through the fog.Your book is still one of the most thought provoking I've come across. You explained things there that resonated immediately and gave me a clear awareness of things I'd been searching for all along.I sense that you speak your words mindful of how they'll be heard, which is the highest form of respect you can give to those who choose to listen. I am grateful to have found your site.Thank you Rob.
— BrianMay 12, 2012
Your booklet on resolving stress is a great read and has set me thinking…Appreciate your effort.The six step process is very logical and simple once you get the step one right…I am struggling with step one on most stressful occasions…I really have a problem to establish what I want..Interesting post.So, how does a person become more receptive and clear their mind?
— CindyMay 12, 2012
I would like to mention about the recent blogs that you put online which always inspire me so much that I would fall into it as a way to dissolve my unhappiness.Those blogs are magnificent.I like them because they really touched my soul.Thank you sincerely for doing that for us.
— LilyMay 12, 2012
Thanks for such a wonderful insight into the reality of happiness.thanks for such a nice post.best wishes and kind regards.
— Ashutosh May 12, 2012
This is an extraordinary article.Simply extraordinary.It gets right to the guts of the situation.Thank you for this.
— Isoke May 12, 2012
I thought this was magic. You’re stuff is so uplifting – you make me really believe I can do this – and I am already to some degree with your help!I think seeing and hearing you say the words helps it to come to life.Thank you so much
— RuthMay 12, 2012
Hello Rob.Reading your posts is always an eventful activity for me.There is something innately calming about the way you write, the ideas you generate; your sense of balance and calm.This is my question: how do you generate such peak emotional intensity about the activities you are interested in?Sometimes I seem trapped in the kingdoms of dreams, and it's hard grounding the charge of fantastic journeys or flights of fancy into reality.Why is that?How do I keep the enthusiasm, the proverbial smile on my face as I lose myself and dip my arms up to the elbows in the blood of my passions?And why's it so damn hard maintaining a positive attitude day in day out?
— Francis A May 12, 2012
Excellent article. I read all the other articles related to this topic.Thank you for giving a deep insight into love, life and happiness. Although some of the concepts are a bit difficult to accept easily, but yet i felt a great sense of relief after reading them.I believe that “Patience” is one of the most important qualities a person should have. But is sad that it is lacking in most of the people in the modern time.Hope to read more on this site. Thank you once again.Regards,
— Tini KurianMay 12, 2012
That was very enlightening…I only wish I had read it sooner…as I have been more bent on being right and getting my way because I thought it was only fair and that I was right…now anger and resentment had consumed me…and has caused considerable damage to my family, my own self-esteem, and the man I was engaged to has finally given up on me…Now what?
— DukeyMay 12, 2012
You da man!
— Suzanna May 12, 2012
Rob, Very nice.Why do we all walk around as mummies.Why do we all have education and endless opportunity yet walk around with frowns and negative attitudes.We have the world in the palm of our hands and you are helping me realize this.I thank you very much.I will no longer just exist and I will choose to take risks instead of following the same beaten path. There are many things out there to be seen that have yet to be seen.Keep the blogs coming Rob!
— RyanMay 12, 2012
Thank you I needed that.
— AliciaMay 12, 2012
I have been getting and reading your perspectives for some time now, and Rob, I like your style!This post brought me to "post a comment".Not only do I appreciate the "free"ness of your service I love your naked truth, and your willingness to share that with others and open up to dialogue. There is value in following your heart, your inner guide, albeit many times I have felt very alone.Your site offers a way to speak and gather new perspectives in areas found confusing because the status quo just doesn't feel right. I have some areas in my life right now that I would love to put out there, on topics which I haven't seen on your sight.Are you up to a challenge? I think the answer is "Yes".Sincerely,
— KariMay 12, 2012
So very true!
— RachelMay 12, 2012
Hi Rob…I just love reading your mail … !!!Continue to keep up the good works…
— JennyMay 12, 2012
Hi Rob,I read all your posts but rarely comment and this is because I feel that you are on a higher plane from me.I know this is not the way I want to live my life and kind of have a vision in my head of what I'm aiming for (but it is more like daydreams) and my problem is that I don't know how to build the bridge to get there.I find it's so easy to get stuck in patterns of living/reaction to life but so difficult to break them. Maybe people who feel like I do (stuck) need some kind of counselling (paid of course) but there again the problem I've always worried about is investing a lot of money in someone (the counsellor) who you really know nothing about. And I did once have a very bizarre 'course of treatment' with someone who claimed to be a healer, which completely put me off.The other problem is that no-one ever really talks about these things – except you! I want to improve my life but don't really know where to start….
— Michelle May 12, 2012
Rob you are a wise man, and I wish that everyone could see how you do. I strongly agree everyone is equal, but why is it that society, with TV and what not, tells us how we should be? Why should anyone have to conform to be welcomed?I won’t lie. I’ve been searching for true happiness for a long time now, and I see just one thing in my way. Everyone's greed. To me it seems that I have to better other peoples’ lives before I can better my own, meaning I have to satisfy someone's greed before I can live how I want to live (no I don’t need money to live, I need money to live legally). Would you say that’s accurate?Which book was it that you read? It sounds fascinating, I’d love to pick it up. Maybe I‘m just tired but I don’t think the title was mentioned.Very interesting post, made me consider some things about the markets (ex: in hindsight, yr are absolutely right: how could we NOT have been at the top when we have 60 yr mortgages?). Gonna have to file what I’ve learned here today for later use for when the next bubble invariably forms…I know its true from life’s experiences. It came about exactly as you mention – My 1st impression of this man was ‘WOW’ – can this be real? And of course it wasn’t but I didn’t learn until 14 months later. He WAS a wife cheating, wife beating, druggie – and of course, treated me the same. You can’t change your nature. The truth came out – sooner or later it always does.Thanks for the great article!
— DianeMay 12, 2012
Wow!
— CaseMay 12, 2012
I really needed this today. I don’t comment often, but I appreciate your thoughts.Thank you,
— HeidiMay 12, 2012
Dear Rob,This one was really good; all of us know of such things, and yet this was like something that provides a threshold energy to cross, what my science subjects remind me of, the ‘activation barrier’ required to come out of your current orbit and go into another system (or create your own!!)Thanks
— Vaibhav May 12, 2012
Hi RobI’ve been reading everything and it makes sense to me. I want to live my life with integrity and peace.I’ve left my husband recently, not because of your teachings, but it has helped me to focus myself. Now here is the question I’ve reached breaking point but now my husband is hurt.Why do I feel guilty for hurting him when he was the one that through his actions drove me away. When do you stop feeling selfish for making the right decision for your own happiness.Is that selfish?
— Teresia May 12, 2012
There are some days that I like to read only what you are sending me thank YOU.
— AnnMay 12, 2012
Love it – just waiting for the next instalment – all makes sense to me so far.Keep up the good work. I read all your mail and think it’s great stuff.
— JillMay 12, 2012
Wow…Rob …….your wisdom has to come from GOD not from your own mindI think His spirit is working through you, you just don't realize it yet and He will keep at you until you see his love that surpasses knowledge
— CaseyMay 12, 2012
Wow, in terms of friendly relationships you just described me almost spot-on.I am far from being unsociable (sometimes I am a little I guess) but somehow I find it hard to make friends. I think I usually get to the part where I know a lot of people casually, but there are very few people I can call good friends.Every time and again I remind myself to invest more time and trouble to building friendships, but for me I guess it doesn't come naturally as with other people.I think a factor is becoming more comfortable with (fake) on-line and casual relationships and getting used to that state of affairs. In other words, it's about getting out of your comfort zone, I think.Peace out!
— AnonymousMay 12, 2012
Thank you so much for the value you bring to the world and thank you for sharing your knowledge with us all.I found myself in this article. I know that I am here for something bigger than me and I am looking for ways to achieve that something. I am trying to discover who am I and why am I here.I struggle sometimes because I am on this path alone and sometimes I feel lost because I believe that is what happens when you step out of the crowd and try to make something for yourself and for those around you.I really hope to keep my faith and enthusiasm 99.9% of the time and keep on going until I’m on the right track…I believe I am on the right track right now but sometimes I wish things would go faster… I need to learn to be more patient.Thank you.
— Daniela May 12, 2012
Rob,You're a hero man!I found your 'live without conflict site' when I was in the depths of depression and looking for a quick fix or failing that a reason why I was feeling like this. This was November 2007 I think.After reading everything, I began to form a perspective that I had actually held all along. From reading your work it soon dawned on me that if I continued living my life with concrete perceptions I was in for a tough ride.Your writing style contributed greatly as well, because it just flows. I still have to work on my attitude on a day to day if not hourly basis but it's thanks to your frequent reminders that I find it easier to get on with it and move into higher states of thinking.I was a little bit cautious at the start about whether this was a scam or something but the information that I was receiving was so enlightening and realistic that I thought "this guy is also developing his own understanding. When people started to post their own interpretations I thought "what a great place to organize your thoughts!"I owe you a lot Rob.
— OsbourneMay 12, 2012
I would like to mention about the recent blogs that you put online which always inspire me so much that I would fall into it as a way to dissolve my unhappiness.Those blogs are magnificent.I like them because they really touched my soul.Thank you sincerely for doing that for us.
— LilyMay 12, 2012
Great post…I used to deal poorly with stress myself as a fire-fighter and emergency medical technician.. drove me to physical illness… Now I've learned how to reduce my stress level, cope with the stress in my life and manage my time and inner energy wisely. HUGE difference.I've now devoted my life to helping others manage stress and stressful situations…. Amazing how we can find our callings in the most obscure places, huh?I love your writing… keep up the good work!
— James TMay 12, 2012
Wise words, and more than that, because it really works! (has practical benefits).In the past, “forgive” had the negative connotation for me that you mention, but I read an article, by Rajneesh/Osho I think, in which he said something to this effect:To forgive is not something that you can “do”; Forgiveness happens when you realize there is nothing to “forgive”.
— JohnMay 12, 2012
I have decided that I have been living a life that is not really who I am…I am going to be true to myself and give up on all the things I have been working on and have made me so very unhappy…and to get back on the path that is the true me…Thank you for all of your wonderful articles to help me realize why I was so unhappy….
— Frances May 12, 2012
Thank you Rob for your posts…Today is one of those days I wouldn’t float without some gentle common-sense.
— FrancisMay 12, 2012
Absolutely beautiful, Rob!The way you expressed your thoughts, it was just so simple yet so powerful. As I read line by line, I couldn’t agree with you more.As much as I believe and practice most of what you’ve written, I do know it’s hard to remind yourself of these things when feelings get hurt or if insecurities creep in.But this is definitely a post I will read over and over again when those feelings start to creep in for me. As much as I know most of what you’ve written to be true, it’s much easier to be reminded by other’s words when all else seems to fail.So thank you for sharing this. It was very inspiring!Blessings to you xo
— TinaMay 12, 2012
I’m only 17 and I’m sad and I feel alone, but this has helped me indeed.Thank u so much
— AliMay 12, 2012
Yes, I know its true because I have dared to live that way (initially in defiance of the way I was raised to be, but always trying to look at things more deeply.I had to learn to trust and eventually to love this truth within myself and now I am enjoying the fruits of this quest) -and it is the only way that works for me!(Feels like true freedom and I am very grateful!)
— Danette May 12, 2012
Hi Rob.Great to see your email in my inbox again. Hope you are well. Thanks for some great insight as usual. Just thought I’d update you on how things are going with me. I’m feeling more happiness and joy every day. Sure, I have my down days when my job gets on my nerves and people annoy me, but they’re getting fewer. I’m still in the career that I’m not sure is for me, but I’m in a much better place mentally now.I think a lot of my stress before came from wanting something better RIGHT NOW, but now I’ve realised that, yes, this career may not be for me, but I’m just looking for the right opportunity/direction and keeping myself in a good place until it shows itself to me.I’ve also just got married – back from honeymoon for 2 weeks now and things are going great. I’d just like to say thanks for your help when we exchanged emails last year. You’ve helped (along with others) to enable me to get a better mind set on life and I feel I can deal with most things from this secure baseline.p.s., your mantra of “do you want to be right or happy?” seems to work well in marriage, as I’m never right, so the default is happy!Warmest regards
— JeffMay 12, 2012
Great article Rob.As humans we have to accept the reality that life comes with challenges.And we become stronger when we faced the storms in our lives with boldness and courage.Remembering always to give thanks in every situation, whether they be good or bad.
— Maxine May 12, 2012
Heya,I was so incredibly worked up over a situation that I can’t change.Sometimes, when you’re in the heat of the moment, you can’t take your head back out.I don’t know how I stumbled onto this but I’m glad I did because it helped calm me down.Thank you!
— RyanMay 12, 2012
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